Reed, thanks for sharing these thoughts.
I agree. When others appraise our goals, we already feel like a person who has achieved the goal. It feels like time-travelling into the future. I even caught myself appraising my own goals – and feeling like a superhero afterwards, but with zero progress.
Sharing progress instead of goals makes much more sense. Maybe even sharing our habits because these are easier to make accountable for than goals?
But people are smart. With the progress and habits we share with them, they may notice what we are getting at: “Oh, I see that you started to write every day! Are you planning to write a novel? Do you want to be a successful blogger?”
So I guess, we still need to learn to resist the urge to respond to that too.